Rose Ariadne's Chitchcraft Blog

Dear Friends,

There’s nothing quite like being in love and losing that love. Everyone experiences heartbreak, and some people are more prone to letting it effect them profoundly. I’ve had a lot of friends who have experienced complete emotional breakdown for months after losing a love relationship. While I have certain moral qualms about using love spells that effect another person, I’ve always advised my friends to try a spell to mend their broken heart.

These spells are different from “traditional” love spells in that they are focused on helping you heal your own heart. They are simple ways of making yourself “right” after losing a significant love relationship. Instead of trying to change your ex-lover’s heart and control them through magick (something I definitely do not recommend), it’s better to focus on liberating yourself and moving on. Getting yourself ready to accept more love into your life with someone else is the best thing that you can do after a break up.

Sometimes, when you break up with someone what you really need most is to get rid of the lingering feelings of love and attachment. These are what makes breaking up the most difficult. The following spell will help you free your heart from attachment to another.

You’ll need nine candles, three black, three white and three red. You’ll also need something to represent your lost love. I recommend using a poppet of some sort, but make sure it’s small enough to fit into your cauldron.

Dress the candles in dragon’s blood oil and then start your ritual as you normally would. Place the nine candles in alternating colors around you, light them in a counter clockwise fashion and sit in the center facing North. Repeat the following words and place an object from your love in the poppet. Then place the poppet into the cauldron.

The words you need to repeat are as follows:

Your love will wither and depart
from my life and my heart.
Let me be (your love’s name)
and go away forever.

Once you’ve said these words, light the poppet on fire and let it burn completely. Bury the ashes and any remaining pieces of the poppet.

The next spell is something that you can use if you want to focus on personal healing and growth rather than working to ban the person from your life. You’ll need a red candle (for strength), two white candles (for healing) and a piece of paper.

Cast your circle as you normally would and then write down the name of your past love on the piece of paper. Place the white candles to the left and the right of the red candle. Light the red candle first, then the two white candles. As you light the candles, repeat the following words, and then light the piece of paper with the flame from the red candle:

I burn your name so it shall be
Cast out of my memory
(name of your love) your name burns with fire
To get over you is my desire.

Once you light the paper on fire, place it in your cauldron to continue burning. Snuff out the red candle and bury it with the ashes. Let the white candle continue to burn until it is done.

If you’re fond of potions, you may want to try this potion that will help you stop loving someone. This potion has been helpful, in my circle’s experience, to end feelings of love for someone who isn’t returning your love. Fair warning, this potion doesn’t taste great but it is very effective. Hold your nose and take the plunge.

Make the potion by mixing together equal parts ginger, cinnamon, lemon and water. Add a dash of salt and pepper and crush three rose petals into the mix. You should gather your ingredients and do all of the mixing of the potion within your ritual circle. You’ll need a white candle and a black candle for the ceremony, as well as an uncooked bean of some sort.

Once you’ve mixed up the potion, light the black candle and say the following:

Banish my feelings of love for (your love’s name)
He/she has no place in my life any longer
I move on from these feelings
And choose my new life.
So mote it be.

At this point, you drink the potion. You may want to have some extra water near by to wash it down. After you’ve drank it, repeat the following while holding the bean:

Thank you God and Goddess for renewing my heart,
I am ready to accept the new in my life.

The bean represents new life and potential. Sleep with it under your bed pillow for seven days and then plant it somewhere in your garden. Each time you see the bean plant, you’ll be reminded of the new life that you’ve created after getting over your love.

Brightest Blessings,

Rose Ariadne
Your Warm And Caring “Resident Witch In Charge”